Expectations

One of our major downfalls as people is that we place expectations on others. Just like we shouldn’t feel the need to meet the expectations that people set for us, they shouldn’t feel need to do the same in return. When we expect people to do something or be something for us we are hoping, believing and waiting for it to actually happen, but there is no guarantee that it will happen. To say that we will never have expectations for people is unrealistic, but what is realistic is knowing yourself, knowing what you want/need and then setting a standard and boundaries for the people in your life to follow. The only way to successfully accomplish this is through diligence and communication. Sticking to what you want and need for yourself and communicating that effectively with the people in your life so that everyone is aligned and on common ground. There are going to be people who won’t want to meet your standards or even care about your boundaries but from there is where diligence comes into play, if they can’t meet your standards or at least make an effort to try then what’s the point of having them in your life? On the contrary we have to evaluate ourselves and ask what do we bring to the table as well? If you aren’t being beneficial you can’t expect others to be beneficial for you either. You have to become what you want/need in order to attract it, no one will take you seriously if you don’t take yourself seriously. That also means that you cannot be hesitant to let people go who aren’t willing to meet your standards, the longer you let them linger in your life the longer they hold space and time for those that will. Stop waiting for people to change for you, instead  make the changes to yourself, once you do that the rest will follow.