Frequencies

Every relationship you have should be mutually beneficial, whether that be friends, family members or significant others. Meaning I water you, you grow; you water me, I grow. Just because you grew up with someone or have known someone for many years throughout your life doesn’t mean you have to actively participate in that relationship. Same thing with family members and significant others, blood nor love justifies dealing with someone continuously. Every encounter you have with a person has a frequency of energies, these frequencies can range from low to high, which is normal, but the question at hand is, what is that energy consisting of? Often times we neglect to really pay attention to the energies around us because we are too far focused on everything else that’s going on in the world to really focus on what’s actually happening with ourselves. The problem is is if someone that you’re actively in some type of relationship with always has bad energy they are transferring that energy on you whether you know it or not. This is why it is important to evaluate, not judge, ourselves and the people around us constantly because these are the people you are continuously exchanging frequencies with the most. If you start to pay more attention to your energy after hanging out with people or after conversations with people you’ll begin to notice the ones that give you good energy that feeds your soul and the ones that give you bad energy which weighs down your soul. 

See-Saw Effect

Once you get the pattern of life you can easily see that life has its ups and its downs, I like to call it the see-saw effect. What gets us the most is when the weight is on our side of the see-saw and we are down, I feel like these are the moments that we dwell in, these are the moments that we remember the most instead of when the weight is on the other side of the see-saw and we are at our high points. Dwelling in the weight of the world gets us no where in life, it only makes us tired and unhappy, we need to start focusing on the good and the positive moments that are happening in our life in order to keep the momentum going for the see-saw. It is inevitable to stop the hard times that come with life, I think we all know that, but it’s what we do with those hard times that count. If you haven’t noticed everyone, not just you, goes through trying times in their life, but the ones who refocus themselves during their hard times instead of dwelling in their sorrows ALWAYS get something better for themselves in the end. Casting your problems to the other side of the see-saw relieves the weight from you and allows you to focus on the things that make you happy and what’s best for you. In those moments is where your side of the see-saw will continuously rise up. There will always be trials in tribulations in life, but it’s up to us to hold on to them or not. This week I want to challenge everyone to let go of what’s holding you down, release all your problems and focus on what makes you happy, at the end of the day we all are here on this earth for a limited time, therefore you should spend most of it at your high points.

A Message to Women

Being a woman comes with so much baggage, we must carry ourselves a certain way, we must be respectful and polite because if we aren’t then we will be labeled as unpleasant or crazy. That’s our reality it comes with the territory, you must understand that. As women we set the standard, the standard for other women, children, and especially men to follow. As women we have the ability to influence the world, therefore we must be conscious of our thoughts and what we put out in the world. One of the problems with women now is that we get hurt and we use that hurt to hurt others or spread negativity because we don’t want to harbor those emotions ourselves. That’s the pattern in today's society, a man does us wrong, we go to social media to bash him and his behavior, that then brings attention from him and other males to come in and save us, but in reality, you’re attracting what you’re putting out. The negative things you said about someone that has hurt you has attracted other men to believe that they can come in a save you or make you feel better in some type of way, when in reality you should be using that energy to be nourishing yourself and fixing yourself to attract better than what you once had. As women we are emotional beings hence the reason why we harbor emotions and can feel more emotions than men. What differentiates the strong women from the weak is that the strong women have the ability to control and balance those emotions and turn them into good. It’s okay to be hurt, it’s okay to feel resentment but don’t allow these emotions to make you bitter or defeat you. Once you turn bitter or you’ve been defeated you’ll begin to devalue yourself and I think from there we all can guess what might happen. This week I want to challenge us women to try to control our emotions and really dig in deep within ourselves to figure out what it is we want in life, we are the assets without us nothing is possible, please don’t forget who you are.

Commitment

Committing should be the first step in anything you’re trying to do for yourself. Whether that be losing weight, changing your mindset, or chasing a goal. Getting your mind around commitment is harder than the actual task at hand. The problem that we face is the small voice in our heads that tells us we aren’t capable of doing it or that tells us to put it on hold. I think it’s safe to say that many of us run away from commitment because it would mean that we would have to actually stick with a task for a period of time and see whatever it is we are doing through to the finish line. Throughout that time there will be ups and downs and you will get discouraged but at the end you’ll be able to say that you committed and conquered. Once you make your mind up to actually committing to something doing it becomes like clock work, for instance; every morning most of us wake up and check our social media, that’s something we have committed to doing everyday so it became normal to us, our minds are already wired to check them so technically we don’t have to use any mental strength to tell ourselves to do so. That’s what I mean by clock work, our brains adapt to what we continuously do. If we continuously second guess ourselves we will never be able to commit to anything we try to do. We all can say we want to do something or change something about ourselves but if we can’t commit it just becomes an idea. If someone were to tell you they were going to do something several times and never follow through you would make that person out to be unreliable or a liar. We must look at ourselves in the same light, treat yourself how you want to be treated, if we make up our minds to do something for ourselves we have to follow through as well. Your word is like bond and if you cannot commit to yourself how will you be able to commit to anyone or anything else.