Family Ties

There are many things that we have no control over when we are placed on this earth and family is one of them. I believe that we cannot choose our family ourselves because they’ve already been handpicked for us for a reason and our job is to learn from them. But the biggest problem with family is that we try to change them instead of letting them be who they are and that’s where the conflict, misunderstandings and generational curses lie. Often times we think it’s out of love and genuine care for them, but if you love and genuinely care for them then you’d let them be who they want to be, just as you would want the same for yourself. I’m not saying who they want to be is right for them or that we should just let our family members spiral into failure, but you cannot force people to change or force people to see life as you see it. The differences in family is also the uniqueness in family. Instead of trying to change or rearrange each others morals and ways of thinking, try to listen, understand, and accept the differences that lie within your family. We have to allow people to be theirselves so we could have the opportunity to be ourselves. Like I said in the beginning, when we came into this world we had no control over who our families were, so it would be crazy for one to think that now that they’re in this world they’d have the ability to change them. The things you cannot change are the things that are most important in your life, learn from them and grow because of them. 

TWISTED THOUGHTS

If I am the rose that grew from concrete then you are the concrete that allowed me to grow.

  Allowing me to bloom through every crack in your foundation and to shine as if it was your lives’ dedication.

Appreciating my every worth and keeping me grounded on this earth. 

You allowed me to blossom into the rose that I am today without picking my pedals or taking my thorns away. 

Forever and always will I appreciate you,

 you allowed a flower to attract life which brought life back to you. Now the cycles of life can be completed because you allowed the rose to grow and provided her with everything that she needed. 

CLOSURE

The chapters in our lives are filled with events, people, and lessons that have happened to us within a period of time, a season. Some things and people are meant to last more than a season and some aren’t, this is why it’s important for us to be able to distinguish between when something or someone is good for us or not as we move throughout our lives and grow. Not everyone grows at the same rate, therefore you may get left behind, someone you’re dealing with may leave you behind, or you’re both just growing in separate directions and that’s fine. The point that I’m trying to make isn’t that we as people grow and we leave people and the events in a certain season behind, I think that that’s pretty self explanatory. What I’m trying to say is is that the most important and over looked part about growth and moving on to the next chapter is closure. Closure allows a full circle of life at a period of time and closure teaches us more about ourselves than anything else, which is why I believe closure is the ultimate test of growth. If you think about it, facing a situation head on, that you probably have been a avoiding for a long time, is not easy and can go wrong if you get caught in your emotions, but when someone has fully grown they can go back to any situation face it with a new attitude and truly be able understand and elaborate why the chapter should be closed. Not every closure situation has to come from a toxic ending, closure allows ones self to speak on why they’re closing the chapter with something or someone, closure is a self realization tool but can only be contained through self realization. Which brings me to the point, if you cannot close chapters in your life with people and have people from the past continuously lingering in your life you have no real growth nor self realization. Which then leads you to a life of open-ended chapters because you weren’t capable of closing them yourself. Please be mindful of your “growth”, the most important lessons that we learn in life are not from what’s happening to us at the moment but from the lessons of the past, close your past so you can actually grow and move on to the next chapter, if not you’ll be learning the same lesson over and over again until you finally get it.

TWISTED THOUGHTS

This material world has made you into a material girl. Looking for men with diamonds and things that are shining instead of morals and men who are loyal. But it’s the lifestyle that fuels you so you settle for men that use you and never muse you. 

If only she knew her purpose was to bear life that was better than before she’d focus on herself inner self more. But she’s apart of this world that tells her that her outside appearance matters more than her future children. She’s only playing the cards that she was dealt, instead of dealing them from her inner self. 

If only she knew that she bears the fruit that men need to produce, then she’d know that she’s the secret weapon that could stop men from the cycle of sin.

But this material world has made her crave what her eyes could see and her hands could touch so she doesn’t have the desire to focus on her inner self too much. 

If only she knew that she was the very thing that inspires men, from grandmas, to moms, to sisters, men thrive for them. Men use women as motivation to strive for the best, but todays women have made them strive for less. They chase after material goals that bring them no growth forcing men to never really settle down and reach their full potential. 

But these material girls in this material world don’t know their own divine rights, they’re just a whole bunch Eves persuading Adams to take a bite. 

If only HE knew that the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree, then he’d know that choosing a woman is a major key in building the foundation of his legacy. 

Compassion Over Vengeance

There are two types of people in this world, people that give to life and people who take from life, we become the life that we live and our actions become us, this is why it’s always important to think before you react and learn from each reaction. Most of the times when we react in an irrational manner it’s because of our internal fight or flight response, when we feel stressed or attacked we get in survival mode and automatically protect our egos and our feelings. If someone or a certain situation moves us the wrong way we try to make others feel the same way that we felt instead of dealing with it on our own. But what we are really doing is putting that negative energy back into the world without fully realizing that it will always come back to us in some way, shape or form. If we think before we react and take the time to feel our emotions and resonate them into words or more controlled actions then we will be able to express ourselves in a more understanding manner. A calm mind is a sound mind, we are supposed to feel emotions, not act them out, every time you react the wrong way it takes you off of your destined course and you move backward rather than forward. Each encounter you have, whether that be with a situation or a person, that moves you the wrong way or takes you out of your natural element should be a lesson learned that way you’re always moving towards the positive. Yeah life is going to be difficult and scary at times but if you haven’t noticed life is also a pattern, shit is always going to happen, you’ll never be able to control it. But what you can control is how you react to the situations you are placed in, that’s the only dependent variable in life, you. How do you want to say you spent the majority of your life, getting through shit or going through shit?