Vulnerability

Letting your guard down starts with yourself, trusting that whatever happens after you let your guard down is meant to happen and learning not to take things personally. A lot of us walk around with our guards up which leads to people only partially knowing this facade of you, but that only hurts your vulnerable side, the side that you need nourished, the side that needs to be loved and taken care of. I believe that we are all guilty of this including myself, this is one of the hardest things to master because we all want to protect our feelings rather than feel our feelings, but feelings are meant to be felt. Many of us have been through a lot of things in our lives and we feel like since we have our “tolerance” for people is lower than others but it should be the opposite, we should be sharing our testimonies and being the most open with others. If you haven’t noticed we learn and grow the most through experiences therefore if we have our guards up all the time we aren’t experiencing or sharing our truest emotions. I’m not saying that we should open up to everyone, I’m saying that sometimes the people that we have our guards up the most with might be the people who are most worthy of seeing what’s on the other side, you never know what you can learn about yourself through others observations of the real you nor should you be ashamed of the real you. The more you hide yourself the more you’ll lose yourself along the way, that then leads to the feeling that no one understands you, but no one will ever understand you if you don’t reveal your true self. We all want something real but it starts with being real. 

Content

Be content with who you are today and be content with what you have today. Often times people brag about what they have or flaunt materialistic things to depict that they’re more “successful” in some type of way, when the majority of the time they don’t really have it like that they say they do. Don’t fall in this pattern because fake success gets you no where fast and further from real success. In today’s society it’s normal for us to go on social media and see what someone else has and think to ourselves like damn I wish a had just a piece of that or if that was me I’d do this or I’d do that, but we have to learn to stop thinking like that because each time we do that we put ourselves in a box. You shouldn’t want the same thing that some else has, because if it was supposed to be yours you’d have it, but you don’t. Comparison is the thief of joy, you cannot compare someone else’s success to your own, your success will look completely different than others, but if you continue to compare yours to someone else’s you’ll never know your own success because you’re too busy measuring up what someone else has instead of focusing on your own possessions. Theres no way you’ll be blessed with more than what you have now if you’re not content with who you are and what you have at the moment. If you want success for yourself you’ll have to realize that success comes from goals that YOU set for yourself and each goal that you meet will be an accomplishment. Set more goals for yourself so that you can focus on your own success and reaching YOUR full potential not someone else’s. 

People Pleaser

The more and more you evaluate yourself you’ll begin to pick up on the little things you do unknowingly. I’ve noticed that “people pleasing” is an automatic thing we do these days. People pleasing is when someone has an emotional need to please others often at the EXPENSE of their own needs and desires. People pleasing does not get you any where for a long term, whether that be at work, socially, with family or someone you’re interested in, you’ll eventually show your true colors no matter what. It’s easy to confuse people pleasing with caring for someone or loving someone and I totally understand that, but when you are putting aside your needs and desires you’re losing yourself for the benefit of someone else, no job nor any relationship/friendship is worth that. I understand that there will be times where you’ll have to put your pride aside and make a compromise but that’s two totally different things. The point that I’m making is, each time you put yourself and your needs aside you’re slowly losing bits and pieces of yourself along the way, therefore when you get to where you wanted to be through “people pleasing” you’re not even yourself at the end of it all. Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to love you, nor will everyone understand you, but that’s for you to do for yourself. Like yourself, love yourself, and understand yourself so much that your values, your needs and desires come first and in any situation where they are challenged, you’d think twice before putting them aside to please someone else.