Reflection vs. Validation

The true self requires reflection from those who are around them. When you have meaningful and fulfilling relationships they become a reflection of who you are and you become secure in them. When you don’t have these types of relationships you will often try to seek self validation in some form from those around you. This is where insecurity in ones self comes into play. I don’t believe that insecurity comes from within, we weren’t born to seek validation from others, I believe that insecurity comes from the judgment and ill intentions from those around us and due to the fact that we are all emotional beings, we can feel when things are off for the most part. The feeling of being insecure comes from our surroundings, the things we look at the most, the people we tend to gravitate to, and what we have taught ourselves to believe is valid. I think the problem lies in the fact that we make the feeling of insecurity more about ourselves rather than the people around us or what we have convinced ourselves to believe is true. When you feel insecure instead of trying to change something about yourself try to change your surroundings, evaluate your close relationships as well as your beliefs and motivations at the moment. We were born whole already, it is up to us to continue to be whole and build whole relationships so that the cycle of being whole will continue. You are more than enough, but it is up to you to believe it so that others can see it.