Family Ties

There are many things that we have no control over when we are placed on this earth and family is one of them. I believe that we cannot choose our family ourselves because they’ve already been handpicked for us for a reason and our job is to learn from them. But the biggest problem with family is that we try to change them instead of letting them be who they are and that’s where the conflict, misunderstandings and generational curses lie. Often times we think it’s out of love and genuine care for them, but if you love and genuinely care for them then you’d let them be who they want to be, just as you would want the same for yourself. I’m not saying who they want to be is right for them or that we should just let our family members spiral into failure, but you cannot force people to change or force people to see life as you see it. The differences in family is also the uniqueness in family. Instead of trying to change or rearrange each others morals and ways of thinking, try to listen, understand, and accept the differences that lie within your family. We have to allow people to be theirselves so we could have the opportunity to be ourselves. Like I said in the beginning, when we came into this world we had no control over who our families were, so it would be crazy for one to think that now that they’re in this world they’d have the ability to change them. The things you cannot change are the things that are most important in your life, learn from them and grow because of them.