People Pleaser

The more and more you evaluate yourself you’ll begin to pick up on the little things you do unknowingly. I’ve noticed that “people pleasing” is an automatic thing we do these days. People pleasing is when someone has an emotional need to please others often at the EXPENSE of their own needs and desires. People pleasing does not get you any where for a long term, whether that be at work, socially, with family or someone you’re interested in, you’ll eventually show your true colors no matter what. It’s easy to confuse people pleasing with caring for someone or loving someone and I totally understand that, but when you are putting aside your needs and desires you’re losing yourself for the benefit of someone else, no job nor any relationship/friendship is worth that. I understand that there will be times where you’ll have to put your pride aside and make a compromise but that’s two totally different things. The point that I’m making is, each time you put yourself and your needs aside you’re slowly losing bits and pieces of yourself along the way, therefore when you get to where you wanted to be through “people pleasing” you’re not even yourself at the end of it all. Not everyone is going to like you, not everyone is going to love you, nor will everyone understand you, but that’s for you to do for yourself. Like yourself, love yourself, and understand yourself so much that your values, your needs and desires come first and in any situation where they are challenged, you’d think twice before putting them aside to please someone else.