Accountability

The choices you make now determine your future. The choices to let go or hold on to people/things in your life also determine the situations you are placed in. If you haven’t noticed, everything you do in your life has a domino effect, many people call this good or bad “karma”, call it what you want but no matter what it's YOU that makes the choices and there will always be some sort of outcome from the choices that you’ve made. Many times we try to blame others or certain situations for why our lives aren’t right or why things aren’t going our way, but at the end of the day it’s you who made the choice to keep or get rid of certain people or things in your life, it’s you that made the choice to continue negative behavior no one else. Once we realize that it’s us that can make our lives better and become more accountable for our actions our lives will become more understandable, not easy but understandable. We will be able to see things with a clear view and be able to make better choices. The older we get the more wiser we should become, but if we continue to make the same mistakes we have no growth, so as you get older become more selective with the situations you place yourself in, be picky with who you choose to associate with because if things go wrong there is no one else to blame but yourself. This week lets try to be more accountable for the things we say and the things we do, accountability is one of the first steps in improving behavior.

For your eyes only

Every persons reality is different. Your eyes have only seen what you’ve seen, your hands have only touched what you’ve touched, and your mind only thinks what you think. Remember these facts when you feel like you have to compare yourself to someone else, your walk is different, your talk is different, therefore you can’t even compare yourself to anyone else or anyone else’s experiences. Trust that the experiences you have been through will lead you to wherever you need to go, never compare or contrast your life with someone else’s because you’ll never fully understand how they got to where they are nor will they understand how you got to where you are. When you compare you put a damper on your experiences through life to see someone else’s life through your own eyes and at that point you are living someone else’s reality, not yours. 

Frame of Mind

Live your life without bounds. There are no limits to what you can do. Whatever you put your mind to and have passion for is attainable to you, no matter what you’ve been through and no matter where you've come from.  In order to live like this it starts with your mindset, how you view yourself, and how you view others as well. A negative mind set will only bring you down, telling yourself you can’t do something is just you not supporting your own self. If you don’t support yourself there’s no way others will fully support you. You have to believe in yourself before anyone else can believe in you, you are your best spokesperson. If you notice you’re being negative about certain things in your life or you just want change in your life, change your mindset, figure out who you are, take time to figure out what you like and what you want in life, not just the surface... what you really want, where you see yourself years from now and then do something about it. You can't just sit around and wait for something to change in your life, you have to get up make things happen for yourself.  It will be challenging but it starts with finding yourself, knowing yourself, and then staying true to yourself, don’t get distracted with what's happening around you and what you see everyday, having a strong mindset will battle off any adverse thought that comes to your mind.

Self Respect

The energy you give out is the energy you receive. When others don’t show you the same respect that you’ve given them don’t fall short of yourself, stay true to who you are, allowing someone’s attitude or demeanor towards you effect who you are as a person only brings you down. If you put out  positive energy and respect others as you want to be respected, blessings come back to you ten fold. Harboring negative energy will only bring negative things into your life. With that being said be happy, be thankful, and most importantly be respectful you never know what someone is battling and each encounter with someone counts. So this week try to be respectful to others no matter your feelings or their feelings towards you, you can only control your emotions not theirs. 

Stepping Stones

Just when you thought things were going good for you, just when you thought you were finally getting what you prayed for, what you were patient and diligent for, but something or someone comes in a swoops all of those anticipative feelings away and you feel like you’re back at square 1. Im not sure about y’all but I feel like this happens to me very often, and I begin to second guess all the decisions that I’ve made that lead up to me feeling that way. But before I can get in that depressive state where I tell myself nothings going right and everything is wrong I have to remind myself that anything worth standing on takes time to build. The obstacles in the way just make way for a stronger testimony. If you think about it, nobody is going to want to hear someone’s story that has been handed everything, I don’t want to hear about someone always getting what they want, I want to hear the stories of people who worked for what they got, who went through hell and back and still conquered. Those are the stories that give me hope and remind me that I’m going through my own testimony as we well. So don’t look at your obstacles as something holding you back, instead realize that the rejections that you’ll receive will be part of the reason why you’ll eventually receive your blessings.

LOVE

Everyone’s favorite subject “love”. I don’t have a thorough definition for love myself because I’m still in the process of loving, but I do believe I have truly known it once. I have known love once because I’ve went through all the phases with that particular love, including grief, which some would say is the final act of love. I agree with that. I believe that we have many loves in life and they all continue throughout our lives until we have had that final act of grief. I think we fall short of love many times because we don’t allow people to be themselves nor do we know ourselves enough to love properly. Love is an active thing, meaning it is always moving, it is never stagnant therefore, we must grow through love or we will miss out on its true nature. Once we get comfortable with “love” it ceases to be its true form, which leads us to replace it with other things such as lust, hate, or jealousy.  But each love is different, some love is only for a season, some love is for a lifetime, but it is still love, it should still exist in your heart.  We shouldn’t take the bad experiences we have had with love and shift them into different feelings just because that particular love is no longer progressing. In order to understand that and recognize love when it comes we must first love ourselves in every aspect of our lives. I know that there are going to be times when we aren’t feeling ourselves or we may be going through a struggle, but we still must love our selves because we are growing. You’ll never be able to love properly if you think love is perfect because it’s not, love feels like shit sometimes but when love is done right it’s one of the best feelings in the world, no drug could ever compare to the high that love gives you. Love trumps all things and love wins every time. I’m still learning myself, so I know I don’t possess all the answers but what I can tell you from experience is; even though the love that I knew isn’t growing anymore it still lives inside of me, it helps me get through my hard times and it has made me who I am today. I try to do everything with love because I know that those who possess love in their hearts will feel me and for those who don't, I have hope that one day they will. 

To be continued....

Divine Order

I no longer live my life with the fear of not knowing because I’ve given my all to a foreseeing God. I think we fail to realize that our steps are ordered, we have all been placed here to do exactly what we are doing. God knew that I was going to wake up at 4 this morning and write; just like he knew that Ermias Asghedom was going to ascend to heaven and change all of our lives for the greater good. It’s about the impact; it’s about trusting and believing in Him. Let me explain myself a little more before I get too deep... I consider myself a Christian yes, but I do not have the same exact values as “most” Christians do, I value self overall. I believe that if you are your best self you can help others... assuming that if you are not your best self you shouldn’t be giving lessons to other people.. I admit that you can be an example but you shouldn’t be telling others what to do... now back to the main point. Our steps are ordered meaning; if we give our lives to God the circumstances around us won’t have an immoderate affect on our purposeful lives. Every one of us has a purpose with God, whether your purpose has a minute or an immense impact, it’s still a part of Gods systematic plan. I say this a lot but, we see things and we get discouraged, that discouragement shifts our whole being, it opens up a pathway for doubt, loneliness, and unhappiness. Yet, if we would have just given whatever it was that made us feel that discomfort to God, it would have been handled way before our being shifted. Like I said our steps are ordered... so why not give all your problems to someone who knows the best solution before you do?